Rules of Happiness: Spend Out

image1Dear Wonderful Reader,

In her book “The Happiness Project”, Gretchen Rubin advises her readers to “Spend Out”. When I first read the header of the chapter, I thought she will talk about money and how we should spend more money in order to be happy.

Thankfully, her advise was much more accessible, and simpler than that. Ms. Rubin is advising against hoarding (guilty!!) or basically saving our “good” bra for only when we’re going out somewhere fancy. Or in my case marking my fancy perfume as a “special occasions ” perfume. How many of us are guilty of saving our “nice” things to events where we see fit, which may never come. Why not just enjoy them now  and put them to work and get our money and hard work’s worth. At the end of the day, they’re just things and they’re irreplaceable. Emotionally, it makes a lot of sense to suck as much happiness from what we got now rather than assigning them to a future they may never see (lol). Economically, it makes even more sense because you’re using all your resources (which may go bad or out of style if you keep hoarding).

So SPEND OUT and don’t hoard things. Wear red lipstick even if you’re only going grocery shopping. Break out the fine China for a simple event (or none at all). Wear your sexy bra even if you’re only running errands. Adore Me is encouraging women to wear their “good” bras AT ALL TIMES, check out their Instagram page for more inspiration. And I HIGHLY RECOMMEND “The Happiness Project”.

And yes, that’s a dog’s bed in the photo.

Need a FURever Home

Dear Wonderful Reader,

I need you.

I broke the law and had to do some community service. It was among the most boring time in my life. I was assigned to a park (thankfully I escaped Caltrans or the freeways) which meat I had to collect trash and do some landscaping work here and there.

One time as I was “working” (or pretending to) I saw this white bullet burst through the distance. I came closer and it was a small dog who appeared to have no owner.

Long story short, I was able to rescue that dog and pay foster to keep him at her house until I figure out something for him. I can’t keep him in my house (as much as I’d love to) because I live with my parents and my dad will throw a fit if I keep him and normally I would put my foot down but the day the dog was caught was the day a family emergency happened which we are still recovering from.

I wanna tell you the whole story and all the details but its 2 am and I have been emailing rescuing cause the lady can’t keep him forever and I can’t keep him and there is no way I am going to allow this dog back on the street again.

He appears to be a puppy chihuahua/terrier mix.

Please help me save his life, I have no idea what to do, but I have good intentions and I am doing my part and I am hoping for the goodness of God to show through this dog, which I temporarily named Heaven (even though he’s a boy) and to show through you guys.thumb_img_9699_1024thumb_img_9700_1024thumb_img_9696_1024thumb_img_9697_1024thumb_img_9698_1024

Isn’t he adorbs?!



You can always help by prayer, by sharing, by a piece of advise.

Books that I Have Enjoyed Recently

I suck at book reviews so don’t expect fancy reviews here. Though, please go to Amazon to read actual real reviews if anything sparked your interest, that’s what I usually do.


2011, The Paris Wife by Paula McLain

I loved this book and how the writing really make the characters come to life. Definitely a book where you could still hear the characters’ voice visit you in your head months later or even years. Captivating story about Hemingway and his first marriage. About love, careers, France, Spain, babies. Highly recommend!!!!


2015, Circling the Sun: A Novel by Paula McLain

Just as colorful, Paula Mccain never fails to deliver memorable characters that will live with you for years. Our heroine is simple fierce and unstoppable just like the African tigers and horses.


2015, The Improbability of Love by  Hannah Rothschild


If you like over the top wittiness, then this book is for you. Simply amusing and irresistible book that will teach you a lot about the Art world.

1999, Bridget Jones: The Edge of Reason by Helen Fielding

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This book is funny and describes perfectly what it’s like to be a woman caught in the world of dating and self help books and zero size supermodels magazines. A must read if you enjoy chick flicks.


Start the Day on a Good Note


What do you guys do first thing in the morning to start the day on a good note?


Today, I found myself clung to my phone browsing the internet and forgetting my priorities. The dangerous thing wasn’t the aimless browsing but it was embarking on the “negative” websites that one tend to find spontaneously on the web. I researched problems instead of solutions, illness instead of healing and I felt like I am not setting a good tone for the day.


How do you guys spend your first hour of waking? How should I spend my morning?

The Acquisition of Faith

leap-of-faith_724_482_80I didn’t know that this moment would be carved in my memory until today, but it is. One time my brother and I were driving home after attempting to Christmas shop at an expensive mall (South Coast Plaza, CA). The drive home was traffic-filled and we got to talking about random stuff then somehow the conversation shifted as it always does after being trapped in a car long enough with someone close to you to Life and The Big Picture.

He told that he thought that Faith was truly the greatest virtue. Heck, he said it was the greatest word. It was the vehicle to everything and through everything. It was the vehicle to God.

I never understood then that this moment would stay with me so much but here it is echoing in my brain every second in this trying time in my life.

Some people seem to be gifted with this virtue. Or maybe I just don’t know the arduous journey they had to go through to acquire it. I find myself thinking that I have faith, only to find it how little I have it when I experience trials.

I am facing a great trial right now. I NEED to have faith. I need faith. I need you guys to tell me anything that would help me. I need to learn about your life experiences and how you have the faith that you have.

I need to see God through your experiences.

Please share your thoughts and pay for me.

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