Word of the Year: Post Truth

Post-truth politics (also called post-factual politics) is a political culture in which debate is framed largely by appeals to emotion disconnected from the details of policy, and by the repeated assertion of talking points to which factual rebuttals are ignored.

Oxford’s 2016 Word of the Year and why I stopped discussing anything with people and why my the generation is the way it is and why the world is the way it is.

At the end of the day after all the malarkey and noise, the very real suffering that exists in this world slaps me in the face and reminds me of my utter and irrevocable weakness and fragility. My thoughts race about trying to solve it all, but how can I solve something I can’t fully comprehend? How can I solve something I am too fearful to face? After my brain exhaust itself, I run to Him to take solace and refuge. I let Him be God and let me be me. (And that’s how I sleep at night.)

 

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The problem with Millenials

Unfortunately the disconnect that is happening today within my generation is nothing but a result of the Individualism movement (& the Self Esteem movement) that was bound to happen after a generation has been spoon fed brain waves by false media and crooked celebrities through screens. Screens everywhere and at all times! The elites tapped into humans’ deepest fears and darkest desires: the yearning to belong and to feel important and successful without doing anything important or successful. Now we are merely “celebrated” for being Who We Are and while on the surface that sounds beautiful and poetic, it is not! This belief makes us stuck in a place of complacency, cheap egocentrism, and blind selfishness. Anyone who dares not see how “special” we are, just for being Who We Are must surely be wicked and backwards. Everything is “me, me, me” and is designed to make “me, me, me” feel good. Until we find out the hard way that the world doesn’t revolve around us then we lash out. Don’t get me wrong and cast me backwards just yet, I think we should all have self worth to be able to lead healthy lives but our self worth shouldn’t be embedded in merely Who We Are as there is no foundation there for it to grow but rather what we do for others and yes, how much we sacrifice and deny ourselves. The reason our pursuit of “self esteem” is backfiring is because self esteem shouldn’t be the pursuit and it’s an idea that can not sustain itself. And even as we are contributing to others, our motivation shouldn’t be to “earn” self esteem as that will inadvertently lead yet again the pointless pursuit of self esteem. Once we let go of the idea of Who We Are, mentality of entitlement, and strip down of the layers of labels and identity then we can see what truly matters and we can feel JOY, not happiness, because noting brings more soul-nourishing ecstasy to the human heart than denying ourselves of ourselves and letting go. 
“Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for my sake will find it. ” (Matthew 10:39)

Rules of Happiness: Spend Out

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In her book “The Happiness Project”, Gretchen Rubin advises her readers to “Spend Out”. When I first read the header of the chapter, I thought she will talk about money and how we should spend more money in order to be happy.

Thankfully, her advise was much more accessible, and simpler than that. Ms. Rubin is advising against hoarding (guilty!!) or basically saving our “good” bra for only when we’re going out somewhere fancy. Or in my case marking my fancy perfume as a “special occasions ” perfume. How many of us are guilty of saving our “nice” things to events where we see fit, which may never come. Why not just enjoy them now  and put them to work and get our money and hard work’s worth. At the end of the day, they’re just things and they’re irreplaceable. Emotionally, it makes a lot of sense to suck as much happiness from what we got now rather than assigning them to a future they may never see (lol). Economically, it makes even more sense because you’re using all your resources (which may go bad or out of style if you keep hoarding).

So SPEND OUT and don’t hoard things. Wear red lipstick even if you’re only going grocery shopping. Break out the fine China for a simple event (or none at all). Wear your sexy bra even if you’re only running errands. Adore Me is encouraging women to wear their “good” bras AT ALL TIMES, check out their Instagram page for more inspiration. And I HIGHLY RECOMMEND “The Happiness Project”.

And yes, that’s a dog’s bed in the photo.

Need a FURever Home

Dear Wonderful Reader,

I need you.

I broke the law and had to do some community service. It was among the most boring time in my life. I was assigned to a park (thankfully I escaped Caltrans or the freeways) which meat I had to collect trash and do some landscaping work here and there.

One time as I was “working” (or pretending to) I saw this white bullet burst through the distance. I came closer and it was a small dog who appeared to have no owner.

Long story short, I was able to rescue that dog and pay foster to keep him at her house until I figure out something for him. I can’t keep him in my house (as much as I’d love to) because I live with my parents and my dad will throw a fit if I keep him and normally I would put my foot down but the day the dog was caught was the day a family emergency happened which we are still recovering from.

I wanna tell you the whole story and all the details but its 2 am and I have been emailing rescuing cause the lady can’t keep him forever and I can’t keep him and there is no way I am going to allow this dog back on the street again.

He appears to be a puppy chihuahua/terrier mix.

Please help me save his life, I have no idea what to do, but I have good intentions and I am doing my part and I am hoping for the goodness of God to show through this dog, which I temporarily named Heaven (even though he’s a boy) and to show through you guys.thumb_img_9699_1024thumb_img_9700_1024thumb_img_9696_1024thumb_img_9697_1024thumb_img_9698_1024

Isn’t he adorbs?!

 

 

You can always help by prayer, by sharing, by a piece of advise.

Books that I Have Enjoyed Recently

I suck at book reviews so don’t expect fancy reviews here. Though, please go to Amazon to read actual real reviews if anything sparked your interest, that’s what I usually do.

 

2011, The Paris Wife by Paula McLain

I loved this book and how the writing really make the characters come to life. Definitely a book where you could still hear the characters’ voice visit you in your head months later or even years. Captivating story about Hemingway and his first marriage. About love, careers, France, Spain, babies. Highly recommend!!!!

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2015, Circling the Sun: A Novel by Paula McLain

Just as colorful, Paula Mccain never fails to deliver memorable characters that will live with you for years. Our heroine is simple fierce and unstoppable just like the African tigers and horses.

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2015, The Improbability of Love by  Hannah Rothschild

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If you like over the top wittiness, then this book is for you. Simply amusing and irresistible book that will teach you a lot about the Art world.

1999, Bridget Jones: The Edge of Reason by Helen Fielding

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This book is funny and describes perfectly what it’s like to be a woman caught in the world of dating and self help books and zero size supermodels magazines. A must read if you enjoy chick flicks.

 

Start the Day on a Good Note

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What do you guys do first thing in the morning to start the day on a good note?

 

Today, I found myself clung to my phone browsing the internet and forgetting my priorities. The dangerous thing wasn’t the aimless browsing but it was embarking on the “negative” websites that one tend to find spontaneously on the web. I researched problems instead of solutions, illness instead of healing and I felt like I am not setting a good tone for the day.

 

How do you guys spend your first hour of waking? How should I spend my morning?

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